Memorial Day for all

I spent my high school years marching in the Memorial Day parade in New Rochelle, New York and have never lost respect for those who serve and make sacrifices in uniform.  Even as an anti-war protester in the Vietnam era, I thought denigration of those in uniform heinous, not to mention counterproductive.

It is impossible to feel anything but pride and gratitude to those who have  served in Iraq and Afghanistan, not to mention Kosovo, Bosnia, Panama and Somalia during the previous decade.  Nor will I forget my  Memorial Day visit to the American cemetery in Nettuno accompanying Defense Secretary Les Aspin in the early 1990s, or my visit to the Florence cemetery the next year.  These extraordinarily manicured places are the ultimate in peaceful.  It is unimaginable what their inhabitants endured.  No matter what we say during the speechifying on Memorial Day, there is little glory in what the troops do and a whole lot of hard work, dedication, professionalism and horror.

That said, it is a mistake to forget those who serve out of uniform, as we habitually do.  Numbers are hard to come by, but a quick internet search suggests that at at least 1000 U.S. civilians have died in Iraq and Afghanistan.  They come in many different varieties:  journalists, policemen, judges, private security guards, agriculturalists, local government experts, computer geeks, engineers, relief and development workers, trainers, spies, diplomats and who knows what else.  I think of these people as our “pinstripe soldiers,” even if most of them don’t in fact wear pinstripes.  But they are a key component of building the states that we hope will some day redeem the sacrifices they and their uniformed comrades have endured.

I spend my working hours worrying about how to improve the performance of the pinstripe soldiers, but that should not reduce by one iota appreciation for them.  These are people who sometimes go places before they are safe enough for the troops, and they stay long after the troops are withdrawn.  I hope my readers will add a minute to their Memorial Day reflections for those who serve in mufti.  And count the many non-Americans who support our people also in your appreciation.

PS:  I wrote this yesterday and this morning found Marc Chretien’s piece in the Washington Post arguing that civilian government employees who work in war zones should be eligible for burial at Arlington.  It’s not a cause I’d have invented, but he has my support.

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2 thoughts on “Memorial Day for all”

  1. Our diplomats should be honored, undoubtedly – especially those who find a way to prevent problems from turning into wars. But how many ex-diplomats are living on the streets because of what they experienced during their service?

    A soldier is “under orders,” as that Roman centurion said long ago, and has no choice about the battles he fights. As you point out, the civilians are in hot spots by choice, because of what they believe in, not in spite it, as may happen with a solider. He does what his country asks, and doesn’t have the alternative of retiring to make a point.

    During the Vietnam War some of the guys in my unit would attend protests on weekends. (“Sometimes you can find a girl who has washed her hair” was one explanation.) Then they’d finish their training (Intelligence Analyst) and head off to ‘Nam with the true believers, if there were still some in ’67. I’ve checked the Wall, and didn’t find their names, but I’ve wondered since how they felt about what they had to do there. (Some ended up as interrogators.)

    So please – provide flags for the graves of the civilians, to place on their graves. Just – please – not at Arlington.

  2. @ Amer: Chretien’s point is that his eligibility for burial in Arlington should be based on his current service to America as an unarmed civilian in a conflict zone, not his former status as a paratrooper. Furthermore, Chretien’s piece makes clear that many civilians serve in wartime out of the same sense of duty and under some of the same dangers as military personnel.

    As far as civilians being buried at Arlington, would recommend checking out their guide to internment. Among those eligible to for burial?

    # The President of the United States or any former President of the United States.

    # The spouse, widow or widower, minor child, or permanently dependent child, and certain unmarried adult children of any of the above eligible veterans.

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